When we do things we end up regretting, often times, we apologize.
There are two somewhat different definitions to apology itself. First, it can be a form of expressing regret after doing something that affects the feeling or wellbeing of others – the one we all care about. The other definition? An apology can also be a defense of sorts, kinda like a “why I’m doing this” argument. So which one is it when we apologize to someone after doing something wrong?
I challenge you to take a look next time you screw up – and when you eventually come to the apology stage, to take a good look at yourself. Which definition do you want to convey? You say…”of course, the first one”. So look yourself in the mirror and see which one it is that you’re really carrying out. Sometimes we perform the second definition when we apologize. “I’m sorry for doing blah blah blah to you, but you should really see it my way” – this could easily make matters worse, as you’ve probably experienced.
I would suppose you can see by now that a certain situation has arisen concerning me. It’s a very “oddball” post as my friend would say, and in a way, it is. Things have been done that yes, I do regret, but hey – regret is a part of life. I apologize, get up, dust myself off, and keep walking. That’s why I keep pushing life is so cool with bad times. If cars never crashed, they wouldn’t have all the safety features they’d have today. If all we did was avoid risks because we might regret it, we’re gonna become even worse than paranoid couch potatoes, too lazy and too scared to do absolutely anything.
What I’d like to show you tonight is that it doesn’t matter whether we fall. The important thing is that we know how to apologize – both ways. Not make others feel bad that we were actually inexplicably better (aka don’t sound like a snobbish retard), but more importantly, to be able to defend ourselves by picking ourselves up and continuing to walk the roads of life.
It’s never too late to apologize. Sorry OneRepublic.
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